Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Speaking without Thinking

Why is it that people don't think before they speak. I know I've done it before too but at least I realize it and feel sorry if something I have said upset someone (even if it was unintentional). Today at work a few of my colleagues and I were having lunch and everyone was talking about how beneficial it is to stay home with your children when they are young. Someone we all used to work with had 2 kids in a couple years and is now home with her young children everday. They were discussing how much she must enjoy it and how great it is for her kids. They will really benefit...blah, blah, blah. Don't get me wrong, the person they are referring to is one of my closest friends and I am so glad that she has the opportunity to be with her kids. But it seemed to go right over everyone's head that I have a young child that I would love to be with but I have to work. They go on and on about how great it is and how they all stayed home and so on.....well not all of us can afford that luxury and like I don't feel guilty enough, I have to hear about it at work too! Needless to say that was just the topper to a wonderful day!


  1. Unfortunately women are often the most savage critics of other women. We all make the decisions that are necessary for our lives. They may not be the decisions we would like to make but they are the necessary ones for our families. Your child(ren)will always know they are the most important part of your life and you will make decisions that allow them to feel loved and secure and also to thrive.

  2. Don't even listen to them. The grass is not always greener. I was a stay at home mom for a while and there are a lot of pros and cons of any choice you make.

    1. Most stay at home moms have a higher risk of accumulating debt and not being able to get it paid due to only having one income.

    2. Stay at home moms more often than not miss talking to and seeing adults.

    3. Their children have serious separation issues and a hard time adjusting when time to go to school.

    There are pros and cons to working outside the home too but of course, but you know those and I know those.

    It's one of those things that you kind of have to smile and nod to. Some women are lucky to be stay at home moms, but what happens when it's time for them to start a career? Or if they have to take a break from their career? 5 or more years is a long time to take a break or wait for a career... and at the rate people are going to and graduating college right now... Oh, not to mention the economy, what will they do then? Don't worry about their opinions. It's not about what's best for them. It's about what is best for you. Don't ever feel guilty about doing what's right for your family.
    Just think about how much better off your son will be behaviorally (Is that a word?) speaking.

    I will keep my fingers crossed for you and your family. I hope that if at some point you are able to stop working, then you are able to do that.